After getting married, you have your whole life in front of you. Here are the right marriage questions you need to ask sooner rather than later.
Marriage is going to be a big step in your life, but there is going to be so much more life to live after your marriage than there was before. It will be a significant learning experience, and you and your partner will grow and change after marriage. To make post-marriage life easier, there are some key questions you and your partner need to ask each other after getting married. These questions will help lay the best foundation for your new married life.
What Can I Do Better?
This question is one you need to ask before getting married, after getting married, and regularly throughout your new married life. When you ask what you can do better, and your partner is also asking that, you’re both showing you want to put in the effort to make the relationship better. A question like this can seem intense at first, but it’s a great way to gauge how your partner feels in the relationship. Transparently laying these feelings out on the table instead of hiding them is one of the best ways to ensure your relationship continues to get better throughout your marriage.
What Does the Future Look Like?
Ideally, you and your partner would have asked questions like this before getting married, but even after marriage, it’s important to get on the same page in this arena. No two people are exactly alike or have the exact same ideas about the future—instead, they learn to accept each other and compromise in certain areas, such as where they live or the number of children they plan to have. It’s crucial that you begin asking these questions earlier rather than later because they can help you and your partner create a strong foundation or reveal the faults you’ll need to address.
No one wants to think about divorce this early into a relationship, but if you ask these questions and you and your partner are not on the same page and won’t ever be, it’s smart to end things before it’s too late. Divorce doesn’t have to be a scary word, and when you work with divorce and family law professionals, it can be an easy process you don’t need to be afraid of. However, you should look at other avenues, such as counseling, before moving on to divorce.
What’s on Your Bucket List?
Another important question to ask is what is on your partner’s bucket list. Figuring out what the two of you want to do in your life is important to figure out at this point because many couples wait too long to start checking items off. If you or your partner have always wanted to travel to Japan, it’s better to know now so you can make that trip happen instead of waiting until you’re older. Make it a goal to cross off an item from both your bucket lists every year, and along the way, you’ll probably think of even more things to add to the list.
Asking these questions regularly after getting married will help to ensure that you and your partner are always on the same page and that you’re confronting the challenges of marriage as a team. Marriage can get complicated and often tricky, but that doesn’t mean you need to only focus on the positives. Navigating those marriage challenges will help you and your partner turn from newlyweds into oldyweds.