Self Confidence: What Are The Most Common Reasons For A Lack Of Self-Esteem?

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There is no worse feeling that not being happy with who you are, so if you lack self-esteem, it’s important to do something about it. Because otherwise, it will only end up impacting your life in a negative way. There are a lot of different causes of low self-esteem, however, in women one of the most common ones is appearance. Studies have shown that in women, eight out of ten cases of low self-esteem are linked to body image.

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Body image is based on the thoughts and feelings that you have about yourself and your appearance. It can even link to what other people think or say about how you look – many people worry that others are judging them for their appearance. Having low self-esteem can make you dislike the person that you are and can make you wish that you looked like someone else.

The impact of a lack of self-confidence aside, it’s time to look at what the most common causes are, as well as how we can improve our body confidence. This is important as lacking self-esteem can impact your life in many ways – from your career to your love life, a lack of confidence can have a big impact. So learning how to boost your self-esteem is a must.

Want to know what the most common appearance-based causes of a lack of self-esteem are? Yes – then keep reading, as all is about to be revealed.


One of the most common reasons that a person will lack self-esteem is due to their weight. This can go either way – some women dislike their bodies because they feel like they’re too thin, while other women dislike their bodies because they believe that they are overweight. Weight is a big factor when it comes to self-esteem and can have a massive impact.

A major problem when it comes to weight is that there are a lot of images in the media of ‘perfect bodies,’ and these have an impact on how we feel about ourselves as women. Just because you don’t weigh the same as a supermodel does, does that mean that there’s something wrong with your body? The answer is, of course, no. However, a lot of women get into the mindset that they should weigh the same amount as someone who they’ve seen in the media, or have the same figure as them. However, each of us is different, and as is our body shape and size.

While keeping yourself in shape is important, it’s important not to let your weight lead to feelings of low self-esteem. If you’re out of shape, of course it’s a good idea to get your body back to being healthy, but it shouldn’t be something that you obsess over and constantly worry about. If you are ever going to love your body for what it is, you need to learn to be more positive. When you look in the mirror, stop negative thoughts in their tracks by thinking of something positive about your appearance. Just because your hips don’t resemble Kim Kardashian’s that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your body. Each of us is different, and it’s important to understand that.


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If you’ve got scars somewhere on your body, then they could impact your self-esteem, depending on where they are located, of course. People who have scars that are not easily hideable can often lack self-esteem. Although, most of the time facial scars cause the most problems, any scar, no matter how big or small, can impact a person’s self-esteem.

However, the good news is that scars don’t have to leave you feeling negative about your appearance, as there are plenty of options to consider. Some of which can help to reduce the visibility of scars, and others that can help you to cope with having a scar and not allowing it to impact your confidence.

For example, for treating a keloid scar – a type of scar that grows lumpier and bigger as it heals – there are surgical options, as well as a keloid cream that could be used. Both of these treatments can make the scar less visible There is also therapy that can help you to come to terms with the fact that you have a scar and can help you to accept yourself for who you are. Many people with scars feel as if they have no value and that others no longer see them as being attractive. However, that doesn’t tend to be the case. The sad fact is that this stops them from putting themselves out there and getting to know new people. However, it shouldn’t do – we need to learn to celebrate difference.

Breakouts and blemishes

Unless you have suffered from acne, then the chances are that you won’t understand how much of an impact it can have on your life. Acne can affect much more than just your skin; it can have an impact on various areas of your life. The truth is that even mild breakouts can cause self-esteem issues, but a lot of people don’t understand that. However, blemishes and breakouts can have a big impact on your self-esteem and can cause you to feel incredibly negative about your appearance.

Not only can breakouts lead to a lack of self-esteem, but it can also lead to depression and social anxiety. This is because many acne sufferers feel embarrassed by their skin and as if it’s somehow their fault. Of course, acne is no one’s fault, but when you’re feeling low about your appearance, it’s far too easy to start blaming yourself.

The best way to give your self-esteem a boost is to undergo acne treatment. Although you won’t see results overnight, by undergoing treatment for your skin, the chances are you will start to feel more positive about the situation. As you skin begins to improve, you should start to feel more positive about your appearance, and so, your self-esteem should grow.

How your breasts look

Believe it or not, one of the most common causes of a lack of self-esteem is the size and shape of your breasts. For many women, small breasts can be a cause of low self-esteem. This is because there’s a common misconception that larger breasts are better than smaller breasts. However, that’s not true, breasts of all shapes and sizes are beautiful, it’s just a case of learning to love your body for what it is.

While a lot of women who dislike their breasts choose to undergo cosmetic surgery, that isn’t always the best answer. Going under the knife isn’t an easy always the answer, because despite what you may think, having breast implants won’t guarantee a confidence boost. Believe it or not, after going under the knife, many women don’t get the instant confidence boost that they hoped for.

The truth is that although having a boob job may give you a confidence boost temporarily, there are no guarantees that it will give you the long-term results that you were hoping for. The best option is to find methods of growing your self-confidence without going under the knife, then if you still want a boob job, you can go ahead and get one. At least that way, you’re not doing it in the hope that it will boost your confidence, you are doing it for you.

Your teeth

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Last but not least, another common cause of a lack of self-esteem is your teeth and their appearance. If you’ve got teeth that are crooked, wonky or stained, then this could have a serious impact on your self-esteem. You see, one of the first things that people look at to form an opinion about you is your teeth. Studies have shown that in the first 15 seconds of meeting someone we have a tendency to make assumptions about them. One of the ways that we do that is by looking at their teeth, hence why teeth that lack beauty, shall we say, can impact your self-esteem.

The good news is that teeth that are imperfect can be easily fixed. It’s just a case of ensuring that you get the right dental care. Dentistry has come a long way in the past few years, which means that getting your teeth straightened or whitened is much quicker and easier than ever before. Plus, most dental treatment, especially cosmetic dental treatment, is virtually painless. Although getting your teeth fixed can help to boost your confidence, it doesn’t guarantee an instant self-esteem boost, and it’s important to understand that.

So there you have it, a list of the most common causes of a lack of self-esteem in women. Although there are various treatments for each of these problems, it’s important to understand that growing confidence takes time. It’s not just a case of having your teeth whitened and all of a sudden you have lots of body confidence, sadly it takes a little more than that. However, fixing the issues that you have about your appearance, or coming to terms with them, is crucial if you ever want to accept yourself for who you are.

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