New Dating Trends Millennials Are Setting

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The love life of members of the millennial generation has, for quite some time now, been a hot topic, and for the most part the generation has not been presented in a good light. Their dating habits and rituals have been subject of much debate and scrutiny. Still, is it all that cut and dry? Are millennials really changing the face of dating world for the worse, or is there a chance that they are being unfairly judged?

In order to shed some light on the matter, it is important to explore and highlight some of the most common dating trends the millennial generation has been ‘accused’ of fostering, and see whether they really ring true and if so, to what extent.

The choosing game

This is by far one of the most debated dating trends ushered by millennials. Yes, it is true that people don’t meet ‘organically’ as much as before and the school dance and personal ads have passed the torch to Tinder, Grindr, OKCupid and other apps. It is also true that to attract someone, people now update their profiles with the latest, most flattering picture, but the question is to what extent is that different from the dating strategies of the past? Women of the past never left their homes without their hair and makeup done – why – so they would look their best if they run into some whose attention they crave. The game is the same; the only difference is technology has made it easier to play.

Dating mistakes

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It is well known that this generation is reluctant when it comes to labeling things. People don’t date, they hang out, and things either naturally progress and they jump from hanging out into a full-blown relationship, or just vanish (ghost) from each other’s lives.

However, in the case of scenario a, it is surprising how many couples have the need to air the news by updating their Facebook relationship status, and some even create joint accounts. This is a mistake on its own, because it seems like you need others to acknowledge your relationship. However, making it Facebook official is not as severe as other dating mistakes, such as airing dirty laundry, belittling the significant other and being passive-aggressive – for the whole online world to see.

These mistakes are not spawns of the millennial generation – they have been around for centuries. People who are passive-aggressive, and vocal about their relationship issues have always existed, but now the complaining and putting down is public, and that is definitely something that needs to stop, online as well as offline, at least if one wishes to have a healthy relationship.

The hooking up

It is safe to say that sex has never been more available, and the approach to it lighter than today. Through dating apps millennials have an enormous amount of insight as to who is available and close by. They could engage in casual hook-ups or one night stands and move on the next day.

Still, who is to say that, given the option, previous generations wouldn’t have followed this same path? Yes, millennials have certainly upped the ante on good sex. The new generation has sex with a wink, sex with awareness—sex as an exercise in bonding and socializing, experimentation, even irony, sex as a complex act that can mean anything at all or nothing at all. Sexual revolution took place decades ago, and it keeps happening, so this might not necessarily a bad thing, just a natural progression of things.

All work, no commitment

Due to ever-changing economic climate, as well as the fact that more women now pursue careers instead of spending time looking for a husband, it seems that this generation is perplexed when it comes to juggling a full-time career and search for a meaningful relationship. When examined from an outsider’s eye, the ruling is that people are more focused on professional advancement than a relationship, but testimonials of numerous matchmakers speak beg to differ. Millennials have been increasingly turning to millennial matchmakers in order to help them narrow down all the Tinder choices and find that right person.

It is evident that the world of dating is changing, but that world has been changing for decades, and who is to say that this new generation is not onto something? As clinical psychologist Elizabeth Churchill states, technology is changing rapidly but human beings are not. Millennials now have tools at their disposal that make meeting and dating quicker and more public, but the actual rituals are not staggeringly different from those of previous generations.

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