One of the biggest challenges any women faces is when she needs to look herself in the mirror and love and accept herself. Because so many females spend their time in front of a mirror looking for flaws, they can easily obsess over what is wrong with them.
In the past when girls would have issues with their self-esteem and confidence, they would seek out a counselor or therapist. Now many women are calling upon life coaches because these professionals are trained in understanding how to change negative beliefs into positive ones.
In a recent interview with life coach Oxana Lovich, she poetically points out, “I believe that any healing starts with loving and accepting yourself. We are all spiritual beings, however, living in a material world we often disconnect from our souls, and forget what beautiful and powerful beings we truly are and therefore our lives become filled with stress, negativity and chaos.”
For many girls who are growing up so fast in today’s social media driven world where they are bombarded with “perfect girls” on Instagram, this can cause a great deal of harm to ones psychological makeup. Many girls are struggling with all forms of issues including eating disorders, body dysmorphia, and more.
In another article on self image, the author makes the point that, “Your body is your temple – your connection with the outside world. You only have one, and it is yours to keep. So when you don’t feel happy or comfortable with it, it can be a lot to deal with. In order to move forward, you need to find a way to get rid of that uncomfortable or unhappy feeling, and make peace with yourself. But that won’t happen all on its own. It is down to you to take action on this issue – no one else can do it for you.”
And this is exactly where a life coach can help. It is quite common that women begin obsessing over everything that is wrong with them that they get stuck and have a hard time moving forward with their life.
“In a lot of the work I do, I help my clients remove old negative beliefs about themselves that are deeply embedded in their subconscious” says Alexis Stevens, a life coach for women from The Coaching Institute. “I cannot begin to tell you how many of the girls I work with who have so many negative thoughts about who they think they are because they are not meeting a certain standard they think they are supposed to meet.”
Sadly, what many of these girls do not realize is that so many of the photos on Instagram are photoshopped, airbrushed, or augmented in some way to create that perfect look. But when a girl browses hundred of these photos a day, it can leave the impression that this is the standard she must meet not only to meet a man, but to be accepted by other women.
“My goal is to help my client love and accept herself as she is. Believe it or not, it’s not easy to do because most girls have been inundated with so many unhealthy ideas from their family, friends, and peers that it takes a considerable amount of work. But once I am able to delve deep and help her uncover these ideas she never knew existed, it’s a rather quick process from then on to help her begin to embrace herself as she is.”
One of the key factors in this process is that girls need to stop seeking outside validation from others. Too many women are putting stock into what others think and don’t realize that once they stop seeking validation from others, it becomes much easier to live a life filled with authenticity and joy.