How to Mentally Prepare for A Parent Going into Care


When it comes time for a parent to have to go into care, it can bring up a lot of emotions. You can feel like you are letting them down, or that they are not going to receive the care that they deserve. It is a lot of strain on your mental health, and you need to be prepared for it, or it could overwhelm you.

Let’s take a look at some of the ways you can mentally prepare for a parent going into care:

Think Positively

It can be incredibly easy to let the negative thoughts take over when your parents are going into care. It’s not an easy time and highlights that your parents are coming into a period of their lives where they will be stripped of their independence and more vulnerable than you’ve seen them before. Although this is true, it doesn’t have to define this period of their lives, and it doesn’t have to be hell for you. Mentally prepare by thinking positively about the situation. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are they going to be looked after?
  • Are they still the same person they’ve always been?
  • Can you see them whenever you like?

The answer to all of these questions is: Yes. That means that you can concentrate on being there for your parent, and the best way to start is to have a big smile on your face whenever they see you. You can achieve that by thinking positively.

Be Organised

In the lead up to your parent going into care, you can stave off all the negative feelings by being as organized as possible, and getting as much information as you can before the move takes place. This can be anything from getting your parent’s home put on the housing market (if you are selling the home to pay for care) to preparing the house for home care (if your parent will be receiving home care instead of going into a nursing home). You can start to make all the necessary arrangements for the home so that everything is ready for the day, and that you are mentally ready because you have been on point with the organization and preparation.

Build a Trusting Relationship with The Caregivers

Caregivers are incredibly supportive people, and they’ve seen it all, so don’t be nervous about unloading on them and talking to them about your hopes and fears. The relationship between you should be built on trust and honesty, and it starts on day one. A good relationship between you and your parent’s caregiver will put your mind at rest and allow you to prepare for your loved one going to care mentally.

You should discuss the possibility of Medicaid and any other benefits that might be possible for your parent. Long Island Medicaid Planning Services are available to speak with, and their consultants are knowledgeable and supportive enough to point you in the right direction and give you all the information you need to make the right choices for your parent.

Talk Openly with Your Family Members

It is a perfectly normal reaction to a painful and stressful situation like a parent having to go into care for you or your family members to become angry, emotional, or become disconnected from your emotions altogether as you try to process everything.

In this situation, the best thing you can do is talk openly with your family members about your feelings both good and bad and establish a chain of communication where everybody can talk freely and not feel frozen out or alone. A parent going into a home can actually draw a family closer together if all members work together on getting the best for their parent.

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