5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Entering An Open Relationship

Open relationships are becoming more and more common nowadays. Several people are coming to the realization that monogamy might not be for them, but how do you know if it’s right for you and your partner? It’s never too late to discuss your thoughts on polyamory with them, but before dropping the conversation, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are you doing it for the right reasons?

Open relationships are perfect for couples who are looking for something new or something different from their current partner. Whether you’re looking to satisfy an emotional or physical craving, you shouldn’t seek another partner before fixing your relationship problems. Perhaps, your partner could satisfy these. If you haven’t addressed any issues dealing with emotional unavailability of intimacy with your partner, address them ASAP. They will expand when more people are added to the mix.

  • Are you going to respect your partner’s sexual boundaries?

For open relationships to work, you need to respect your partner’s sexual boundaries (and vise versa). Are you comfortable with your partner having sex with other people? Are they comfortable with you seeing the same person more than once?

  • How are you going to discuss protection?

If you are going to open up your relationship, you should create some safe-sex guidelines. Make sure that you and your partner discuss how you will protect yourselves AND each other. Are condoms required? What about dental dams? How often are you going to get screened for STIs? If there are any sexual medical concerns would they get treated?

  • What emotional boundaries do you want to set?

When you’re in an open relationship, you shouldn’t just set boundaries when it comes to sex. If you and your partner don’t set any emotional boundaries, you’re at risk of developing resentment and jealousy. Talk about whether you’re comfortable with them going on dates with other people, or seeing the same person for a long period of time. It will keep you from adding tension to your relationship.

  • How are you two going to deal with jealousy?

You should periodically evaluate your feelings of jealousy while in an open relationship. Jealousy is common in the beginning stages of non-monogamy because it’s a new concept for you two. But, if the feeling lingers and grows, it might indicate that having an open relationship isn’t the best option for you as a couple.

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